Marriage and toddlers is a tough combo – especially when you have more than one (toddlers that is). Part of parenting is working as a team to teach, love, and care for your kids, the hard part comes when you have to balance that with your love and support for each in marriage. Which makes it difficult to simply make time for your marriage when you have toddlers, much less allow it to flourish. 

Luckily, we’re not the first to experience tough times and quiet nights after our toddlers go to bed. The stress of parenting and marriage is a common struggle, which means you shouldn’t feel guilty for experiencing it – and there’s tried and true methods of helping you both push through.

Making Time for Your Marriage and Toddlers

Let’s just say that making time for both is going to involve a lot of balance, effort, and communication. You’ll need to set aside time for date nights, time together, or start new habits – like no phones in bed. Little things make the biggest difference and can reintroduce spontaneity even when you’re tired. 

Additionally, you’ll both need to sit down and have a good conversation about why you’re struggling. Do you feel as though one partner is doing “less” than the other? Is the cleaning and caring split? Are you getting enough sleep or eating enough? All can contribute to feelings of dissatisfaction, and while work may not be divided unevenly, communication can typically clarify what one is doing and the other and make you look past the surface of the situation.